I and Tinder were never best friends. I always hated how this app took all the butterflies out of dating. You’re solely judging people based off of looks, their corny one-liners, and let’s face it the app is prominent for hook-ups. I’m a personality girl and I always thought that using the app would make me feel shallow. But after a lonely semester, I decided to unpause my account for a full five days with a few of my friends.
Swiping Left Based On Looks
As I said, these dating apps make me feel shallow and more judgmental. A lot of these profile pictures were depicting shirtless guys, guys posing with girls, and random images as profile pictures such as a grilled cheese sandwich, yes really. Meanwhile, I wasn’t really attracted to the guys who did try in their photos. Although like all of us I look at looks first, I really care more about the personality. I can find the “ugliest” person in the room and if their personality is a plus to me, then we are a match. So the idea of swiping based on looks was a turn off to me.
The Lack Of Matching
Every time I used Tinder, I always get lucky enough to get matched up with someone though unmatches are common for me too. I guess it’s my fault for not being as active on the app due to my annoyance on it. When I was active, I got only a few matches while waiting for them to message me first. Call me old-fashioned, but I want the guy to make the first move. And when I did receive my first message asking me to make out with them, I felt absolutely nothing. Not flattered, not disgusted, but nothing.
Tinder Gold
So Tinder Gold allows you to see who liked your photo. You have to pay fee every month to unlock this crap, I mean benefit. I had a friend reveal to me that her confidence level boosted when guys would flirt with her on the app. She also told me that she did pay for Tinder Gold as well. Tinder can obviously have a toll on your confidence level especially if you are getting few matches. Of course, it is fun and easier knowing who likes you and when you get your matches. But with the option of Tinder Gold, I hate the idea of having to pay to find love or in some people’s cases for gratification.
Verdict
Tinder is just a no for me. I hate assuming that my generation doesn’t know how to be outgoing and social in the dating world, but apps like these prove that. What happened to talking in person or going up to people you like? Although I “shot my shot” and missed plenty of times doing this in person, I can see why people use apps as it is a way to avoid physical embarrassment.
Technology Killing Social Gestures
However, it sucks when apps like Tinder are pretty much everyone’s preferred method of dating. There’s no romance nor chivalry and personally, I think it makes people less social. Honestly, I feel like people these days do not know how to hold an in-person conversation and therefore they rely on these apps. As a kind introverted person, I understand, but only to an extent. If you can’t hold nor have the guts for a face to face conversation, then yeah I just can’t.
This Isn’t For Me
Honestly, I hate modern dating and I think it sucks. People will swear that they found their amazing husbands on a dating app. Well, great for them. This is just my opinion and I’m pretty sure there are other success stories out there. But as lonely as I may feel from time to time, this app made me realize I’m not missing out on much. I was turned off by the selection pool on the app and frankly, I’m fine with that. The “experiment” felt unnatural and taught me that it is okay to wait for your prince charming. If people before the technology era found their soulmates, then we younger gals should still have hope.